When I think of ugly today what comes to my mind is not physical appearance that is deemed unattractive but rather behavior. Those moments when you think that someone that you have a generally strong relationship chooses to behave in a seemingly unnecessary and hurtful manner, it is then that I find that to be “ugly”. The utter shock and disappointment followed by the sense of betrayal send cold prickly feelings up and down your spine
The initial and most likely human response is hurt followed by anger. What seems logical is to assume the victim mentality and begin arming yourself to fight back or at a minimum plan your retaliation. It is at this crucial crossroad that you find yourself hovering at the edge of a precipice that defines you and your tolerance.
Posted at http://thereddressclub.blogspot.com/2011/03/red-writing-hood-uglybeauty.html
© Lisa N ~ 3/11/2011
Can you step back and look at the behavior in calm and rational manner? It is possible to spin the situation in a direction that would allow for belief that potentially what appeared as “ugly” may indeed be the actions of a true friend who is putting themselves on the line to provide you with “constructive criticism”. What seems unseemly in the current light may be a rough and unpolished nugget that when handled properly may turn out to be a beautiful and worthy gem.